Simple Mind

Life would be simpler if we accepted everyone at face value. I always wonder what it must be to live life simply - just simply, without thinking too much. Its become so much of a habit for our mind to analyse emotions , thoughts, intentions around every behaviour of others. Its become so difficult even to accept someone’s laughter or a smile without the urge to mentally probe and wonder if he is actually happy or faking it. Its not easy to even celebrate the success without wondering if it is really worth. The most critical one is that, the mind refuses to accept the written facts too.

We take a longer time to take any decision because our mind doesn’t accept the sweetness without a tinge of bitterness. Basically we are not used to experiencing only sweetness in life - It seems just unrealistic for something to be good or positive in an absolute sense. Our brains love to solve complicated things or rather love to complicate things as they work 24/7. Do we call this intelligence?.When we start analysing the gestures ,emotions ,we eventually tend to get hurt deeply. Many times we fail to discern between the truth and perception.

It is important to understand the difference between thinking deeply and suspicion. Our brain does not understand the difference because all it knows is to follow the program fed into it. I have also seen that we are many times misunderstood for suspicion when we actually are too concerned. But too often we do not realize that we hurt our loved ones  just by showing our concern. We tend to loose out on large things for small things which are important to us but may be miniscule in a particular context

Actually accepting all things at face value would certainly simplify our life. But it is easier said than done. The issue is  - how do we train our brains? Can we simply ignore emotions in some one ‘s eyes. If we do so ,what would be the difference between us and other living beings?

At times, we are at cross roads of our life. We do not know which path to take. It makes our life more complicated. Our brains anyways love to complicate things . We do not realize that the solution is so simple and easy, yet the complexity created by the overtime efforts of our brain makes it hard to understand.

I think the key to make our lives better is the Simplicity. Bringing simplicity in our life is not  an easy thing to do but it is not impossible. Simplicity not only includes simple food and living but the most important one is simple thinking. I do believe our food says who we are and our living says why we are. Simple thinking is what makes us what we are. Two major factors that help simple thinking is TRUST and EXPECTATION.

Trust is the DNA that runs through any human relationship. Bonding between two happens only when there is trust. Your life becomes much simpler if you trust yourself and people around you, most importantly your loved ones. Our life would be  much simpler if we are able to understand people and trust them to be who they are . Instead we trust people to be who we want them to be, and when they’re not we tend to get hurt and complicate our minds.  So, hold the hand of the person whom you love rather than expecting them to hold yours...

The other factor is Expectation. Expectation starts right from our birth - first people expect from us and by virtue of that, we start expecting from people, as we grow and learn from them. Our brains gets so used to it that for every behaviour, something has to be expected. If not anything - atleast  emotional reciprocation. Just take a minute off, drop expectations from your mind and continue with your work - trust me, life becomes much simpler. If  you don’t expect, you will never be disappointed as it is rightly said in Bhagavad Gita “Do your karma, without expecting results. Results will follow as a consequence of your Karma”. Expectations are most often related with emotions. We always tend to expect others to behave the way we want. This makes our life more complicated. Not to expect anything from anyone is the key to Simplicity.

Expectation is often misunderstood with goals . Goals are necessary for us to work harder. Goals helps to follow the right directions. Many a times, people are too unreasonable to themselves by setting unrealistic goals and expecting to achieve them. Goals many times helps us find our purpose of life. Simplicity  will surely help us to  have a positive outlook of our life, and accept people at their face value yet understand their emotions and not imposing ours' on them. Being simpler in actions and thoughts is the key to heart.

Not to forget Mahatma Gandhi’s quotes “Live simply so that others may simply live”.